Kerry Fleckenstein, Therapeutic Lifestyle Recovery Coach
9:15 am

9 Traits of Genuinely Happy People


1. Love Themselves

I mean this in the sense that they are comfortable in your own skin. They accept and embrace your character, your mind and your body, not needing others approval. They make the best of everything.

2. See relationships as a part of, the whole of life

Relationships are a wonderful part of life. All kinds… parental, romantic, friendship, work. However, they cannot dictate happiness. To be dependent on a relationship to keep you happy leaves a void if something goes wrong with the relationship. Genuinely happy people are self-content and then embrace relationships as an extension to their happiness

3. Embrace Change

Life, if you don’t know by now, is inconsistent, undependable and always changing. Truly happy people (and let’s clarify here, not happy every minute of every day, but generally happy inside) are open to change, they truly listen to suggestions, respect and consider all opinions, and take criticism constructively rather than offensively.

4. Are happy for others without comparisons or jealousy

Jealousy is a dangerous emotion that causes unnecessary stress. Happy people usually see and use the accomplishments of others as motivation to achieve the same thing rather than harbor resentment. We have all been there. Life gives some people more than their fair share of hell while other seem to sail through without many scratches. Oh well…. It is what is. Use it. Get what you want instead of wishing you had what they did.  

5. Is not a victim

We’ve all been the so-called “victim.” You can be victimized by a boss, a relationship, a family situation, a crime or a serious abusive situation. It happens. Instead of dwelling on the terrible thing that happened, truly happy people tend to accept it and use it to get stronger. When people say, “Wow I don’t know how you made it” I say that I learned good lessons. I choose to look at what life brought me and turn it into a new beginning rather than a terrible loss.

6. Lives in the moment. Is Present

The past is gone and the future is not here yet. Happy people tend to realize that. Not only that, they tend to use that knowledge as motivation to make the most of each and every moment. In addition to being motivating, presence can also come in handy for truly appreciating those moments of relaxation, allowing yourself to be truly in them rather than distracted by future concerns. You don’t get where you’re going looking behind you and you won’t get there any faster than you can handle. Enjoy and accept the journey.

7. Believes Everything Happens For A Reason

This can very easily be paired with the choice to not be a victim, but happy people tend to trust the process and existence of everything in their life. They know that nothing is ever too big to handle and choose to embrace what life is currently throwing at them rather than cowering at the sight of it.

8. Understands it’s not always about the money

We all need money and need to make it. There is now running away from that. However there are choices that differentiate what we need and what we want. To make every decision in life based on money is a losing proposition. Is uncreative. A little risk might bring a great reward. For happy people money is not the ultimate dictator.

9. Look Within For Solutions

Genuinely happy people understand that change comes from the inside out. Whether you want to change your diet, your body, your mind, or your life the decisions come from within. There is no outside source to your thoughts or your happiness. If you want to lose weight, you have to understand why you gained it. If you are too stressed, ask yourself what can be different. Why is this in your life? Why is he/she in your life, why do you keep an unsatisfying job?

You have all the answers, you own the key to your happiness, peace and joy. Sometimes you just need help turning the key….